How to be mom(me)- A light take on motherhood and everything around it!

Mommy fatigue- That unaccomplished, unexplained and undeciphered feeling. So a real long weekend with 4 days of school holiday has punched me in the face with the Mommy fatigue- wherein by the end of Day 2 i'am unexplainably exhausted, worn out and (no surprise) sleep off halfway through bedtime story(to be woken up twice by my ever chipper 4.8 year old). So what exactly did i do to get so tired?Ask me, I dare you! Because honestly i am as confused or astonished(as some of my single friends point out) about what i do on a holiday with my little one? So my highly spirited child is not into television or any activity that requires the use of the amazing invention that provides comfort to the backside namely sofa/chair/bench/bed/even floor! She is heavily into role playing(with me) and been so for the past 1.6 years(yes i have been counting). After my initial excitement of participating and being involved in her role playing which could extend anywhere from 1 hour to 5 hours at a...

The Mom who lost her cool! How often have i judged a mom for losing her cool or making her child cry(before my mommy days)- plenty How often have i judged a mom in the last 4.5 years of being a mom?-honestly zero It's so easy to hurl a sideward glance of disapproval to a mother scolding or shouting at her cherubic preschooler. Very easy if you ask me. All it takes is a look at the teary, scared , cowering little child to   label the "momster". This is typical of people who haven't "lived" the life of an exhausted,sleep deprived, nanny on call, chauffeur on call, cook on call, night time on call mother(oh, did i forget hormonal??). iam a stay at home mother and most days i take my job very seriously. Not that i'am a helicopter mother(some might vehemently disagree) ; anyway i'am the kind who makes sure all the duties revolving around my little one is done and done well. Well you could call lil A my client, a very demanding client at times! I...

Grass is always greener on the other side of the fence!  But behold! Enjoy your greenery before it gets to the other side! Just this morning when i took little A to costa coffee for her hot chocolate and a caffeine shot for myself, i saw a spunky young office goer getting a take away and heading out to wrap up some unfinished business with a spring in her step. It instantly transported me back to my office days when i could not even fathom sitting and leisurely enjoying a coffee during the day and getting a quick take away en route to a meeting was a luxury in itself. I smiled at the thought and realised how the "grass is greener" saying was a real deal!  Back when i used to work i would just sigh at the sight of a newborn cuddled in a mothers arm, and now i wish i walked with a spring in my step juggling a laptop with a bag and a take away mug?!  Isn't grass always greener on the other side of the fence? Even among us mother species ; the strong claws o...

Why the Why's Have to be answered and nurtured As a mum to an over zealous toddler who has grown up into a curious , inquisitive  pre schooler ; i have heard the word "why" at least 60 times on a good day(when i counted!). These why's range from  "oh, so cute", to "oh, that's embarrassing", to "oh my god, not now" to "oh no, not here" to "oh , why indeed". Most of the why's pop around the same time your little one starts to put words together to form sentences( remember how much you fretted over the fact that the little one hasn't started speaking yet!). My Little One loves "why" over the "hows","wheres", and "whens". As much as it tends to annoy me at times she is completely justified in using as many "whys". Imagine grown ups being transported to a new planet with no reference point and asked to go about their daily life. Wont we, as adults hav...

Make it Right, Mom! Ever wondered how in your child's eye you are a fixer, no matter what the problem is.My little one thinks i can fix any problem and make it right. How we wish, right? Imagine the utter faith they have in the word "mother" who can make everything right in a way that almost translates us beings into metahumans (u could also call it super mom). So this lazy sunday AM lil A and I are watching a movie where a ferocious tiger hurts a little animal,  which gets A a little perturbed who asks me to do something about the mean animal. I try telling her that its just a movie and they are acting out these emotions.She digests that fact and then asks me to make her stop feeling sad?! My instant reaction to inculcate feelings of independence in my 4 year old makes me say that she has to manage her emotions herself and i can only guide. Imagine, Lil A thinks i am powerful enough to stop her from feeling bad/sad, make her boo boo pain go away, make the hot m...

Rise above the little things, Mommy! So this new year i was thinking of a resolution that i can really keep and not one that disappears over the horizon after an enthusiastic debut! Something doable and definitely not restraining (there goes dieting out of the window!). So i started looking at all things i need to work on , things that are WIP for me and i realised that there are many days that i snap and lose my cool with lil A. Call it power struggle, over protective nature, an eager zealous 4 year old who wants things her way, and the innumerable "why's" that demand answers. That got me thinking if i should be tackling each of these issues individually(phew!) or is there something else that i can do that lets me manage myself in all these situations better. Thats when i came across this quote which simply stuck: "ONE RESOLUTION I HAVE MADE,AND TRY ALWAYS TO KEEP, IS THIS: TO RISE ABOVE THE LITTLE THINGS" JOHN BURROUGHS  But rise above what? Thats ...