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Grass is always greener on the other side of the fence! 

But behold! Enjoy your greenery before it gets to the other side!

Just this morning when i took little A to costa coffee for her hot chocolate and a caffeine shot for myself, i saw a spunky young office goer getting a take away and heading out to wrap up some unfinished business with a spring in her step. It instantly transported me back to my office days when i could not even fathom sitting and leisurely enjoying a coffee during the day and getting a quick take away en route to a meeting was a luxury in itself. I smiled at the thought and realised how the "grass is greener" saying was a real deal! 

Back when i used to work i would just sigh at the sight of a newborn cuddled in a mothers arm, and now i wish i walked with a spring in my step juggling a laptop with a bag and a take away mug?! 

Isn't grass always greener on the other side of the fence?
Even among us mother species ; the strong claws of "if only" grips our thoughts much against our genuine intention.If only my child dint whine , If only mine dint throw tantrums, If only mine was not so grumpy, If only mine wasn't hyper, If only mine told me what all happened in preschool, If only mine stopped talking so much, If only mine dint behave so childishly, If only mine stopped behaving so bossy, If only mine was scared of something, If only mine was not scared of things and the list can go on and on. Until we decide to put a full stop and ingrain in our brains that one size does not fit all. Whats the point if all the If only's came true? We would be raising clones and perfect children? What is the fun in that? Your child is unique and brandishing the child's behaviour with "only if" will just lead to more such "only if's" all through your life which will take away the one amazing thing that won't return in your life- Your today!

Ever since i have watched little A grow through her infant stage to a bouncy toddler to a self sufficient pre schooler, one thing i have realised is that i always miss the yesterdays. Missed the time when she would crawl , missed the time when she said her first few words, missed the time she would hold my hand while walking. We all get so caught up in the technicality of parenting that sometimes it becomes hard work to change diapers, sing your colicky baby to sleep, burp her and make sure the burp cloth is right in place, make sure she brushes her teeth for 2 whole minutes. Not realising that while these tasks seem uphill at that time, they won't last and you certainly wouldn't remember the hardships as much as that first single tooth grin, the time they cuddle you after school, the time they take their first steps. When you look back, all the good memories instantly replace the work that was put into make it happen.   

So i decided to be true to myself and my darling A , that no matter what i will try real hard to live in the moment and enjoy her today with her. Build memories and enjoy the greenery while it lasts because i'am sure tomorrow it will get on the other side of the fence!

Carpe Diem!!




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