The Mom who lost her cool!
How often have i judged a mom for losing her cool or making her child cry(before my mommy days)- plenty
How often have i judged a mom in the last 4.5 years of being a mom?-honestly zero
It's so easy to hurl a sideward glance of disapproval to a mother scolding or shouting at her cherubic preschooler. Very easy if you ask me. All it takes is a look at the teary, scared , cowering little child to label the "momster". This is typical of people who haven't "lived" the life of an exhausted,sleep deprived, nanny on call, chauffeur on call, cook on call, night time on call mother(oh, did i forget hormonal??).
iam a stay at home mother and most days i take my job very seriously. Not that i'am a helicopter mother(some might vehemently disagree) ; anyway i'am the kind who makes sure all the duties revolving around my little one is done and done well. Well you could call lil A my client, a very demanding client at times!
In the midst of ensuring she eats well and gets her daily dose of nutrition and between the innumerable role plays and chauffeuring around to playgrounds and maintaining my cool amidst the temper tantrums and handling an overly tired 4.5 year old who wants just one more story before bed time i try to maintain my cool and do all the deep breathing exercises i practised preparing for childbirth(which they conveniently skip to tell you, is for delivery and after!)
But sometimes i lose my cool! There you go! i have lost my cool with lil A plenty of times. especially during her summer vacations where i felt like she pushed me to the top of the edge and further pushed me over it! So go ahead and judge me.
What the Daddies/grandparents/friends without kids conveniently oversee is the build up to the shouting. It could be the end of a long, really long day which involved a trip to the supermarket, playground, playdate, seasoned with a fair amount of tantrums, ouchies in innumerable places which hurts so bad that they need to be carried, hunger meltdowns, tussle with friends among other things. By the time the day comes to a close and when they don't settle down with just 4 stories because they are overly tired but still want their way around- well you just lose it!! at the cost of being a momster!
A lesson i have learnt from all the unpleasant episodes is not to let the "internal screaming" build up. Now if i see or deal with something too stressful i try and put my foot down or be very very firm even at the cost of precious tears down lil A's face. It is a little hard in the beginning if you are used to giving up easily or if you child is used to getting things their way real quick and easy. So instead of keeping calm and carrying on, as Elsa sang, let it go!
How often have i judged a mom for losing her cool or making her child cry(before my mommy days)- plenty
How often have i judged a mom in the last 4.5 years of being a mom?-honestly zero
It's so easy to hurl a sideward glance of disapproval to a mother scolding or shouting at her cherubic preschooler. Very easy if you ask me. All it takes is a look at the teary, scared , cowering little child to label the "momster". This is typical of people who haven't "lived" the life of an exhausted,sleep deprived, nanny on call, chauffeur on call, cook on call, night time on call mother(oh, did i forget hormonal??).
iam a stay at home mother and most days i take my job very seriously. Not that i'am a helicopter mother(some might vehemently disagree) ; anyway i'am the kind who makes sure all the duties revolving around my little one is done and done well. Well you could call lil A my client, a very demanding client at times!
In the midst of ensuring she eats well and gets her daily dose of nutrition and between the innumerable role plays and chauffeuring around to playgrounds and maintaining my cool amidst the temper tantrums and handling an overly tired 4.5 year old who wants just one more story before bed time i try to maintain my cool and do all the deep breathing exercises i practised preparing for childbirth(which they conveniently skip to tell you, is for delivery and after!)
But sometimes i lose my cool! There you go! i have lost my cool with lil A plenty of times. especially during her summer vacations where i felt like she pushed me to the top of the edge and further pushed me over it! So go ahead and judge me.
What the Daddies/grandparents/friends without kids conveniently oversee is the build up to the shouting. It could be the end of a long, really long day which involved a trip to the supermarket, playground, playdate, seasoned with a fair amount of tantrums, ouchies in innumerable places which hurts so bad that they need to be carried, hunger meltdowns, tussle with friends among other things. By the time the day comes to a close and when they don't settle down with just 4 stories because they are overly tired but still want their way around- well you just lose it!! at the cost of being a momster!
A lesson i have learnt from all the unpleasant episodes is not to let the "internal screaming" build up. Now if i see or deal with something too stressful i try and put my foot down or be very very firm even at the cost of precious tears down lil A's face. It is a little hard in the beginning if you are used to giving up easily or if you child is used to getting things their way real quick and easy. So instead of keeping calm and carrying on, as Elsa sang, let it go!
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