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Bring out the Report Card! Comparison; they say has stopped. Parenting; they say has changed. We will not subject our kids through what we went to, they say. I say- Hogwash! Case in point- A distressed mom was talking to a group of moms about her child acting up and obviously giving out desperate signals of seeking useful advice and solutions. The mom in question was terribly disappointed and gave up when all the other Mothers began whipping out their child behaviour book and comparing how each of their kids react. I Mean come on , not everything is about saying me too or mine too! Sometimes the despaired mom just needs to vent or wants someone to listen to her, not someone who would immediately change the subject and steer it back to a notebook full of comparison points.Check! What happened to our quality of listening or being there? When did it become a competition of parenting skills and know hows? So how can we say that comparing kids has stopped , that we have stopped...
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Some ads with kids that makes me say "which parallel universe are you from?!" Have you seen some ads with children in them that makes you mouth "what the?". This besides the way in which some kids act that would put Kareena Kapoor to shame as far as acting over the top is concerned.  I was watching this detergent ad in which a child(7 year old?) reacts to a food spill stain on his shirt with such finesse and a shrug of his shoulder coupled by his chipper mother who just smiles in every frame of the ad. Now in which universe is this fathomable? If you have ever donned a hat of a mother to a preschooler/high schooler with stained uniforms or party wear, this question is to you. In a real life scenario the child will either bring the roof down(OCD driven individual) or the child continues as if nothing happened. Mother reacts with a mental math on how long the stain can stay dry and by what time it should be treated severely to leave all traces. Another react...
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Remember all the times you have been frustrated by someone/everyone who just doesn't seem to "get you". Now imagine that feeling amplified and triggered ; almost every alternate day. Annoying isn't it? That's exactly what a child goes through which is conveniently labelled as tantrums in the grown up's dictionary.Really, don't you as an adult ever disagree to something strongly,need something done your way,or refuse a meal because you had a heavy snack?!) Would you label that as unreasonable behaviour or tantrums? Being a mom has instilled in me a whole lot of personality traits i never even imagined to be capable of till i had a child to deal with and co exist peacefully. One of them being Empathy . Every time i Empathise we have less of a power struggle, more peace and understanding and a whole lot of love.It also saves me the anger, stress, strained vocal chords, rage and the guilt that follows after(and the greys that follow much after!). Empat...
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Mommy fatigue- That unaccomplished, unexplained and undeciphered feeling. So a real long weekend with 4 days of school holiday has punched me in the face with the Mommy fatigue- wherein by the end of Day 2 i'am unexplainably exhausted, worn out and (no surprise) sleep off halfway through bedtime story(to be woken up twice by my ever chipper 4.8 year old). So what exactly did i do to get so tired?Ask me, I dare you! Because honestly i am as confused or astonished(as some of my single friends point out) about what i do on a holiday with my little one? So my highly spirited child is not into television or any activity that requires the use of the amazing invention that provides comfort to the backside namely sofa/chair/bench/bed/even floor! She is heavily into role playing(with me) and been so for the past 1.6 years(yes i have been counting). After my initial excitement of participating and being involved in her role playing which could extend anywhere from 1 hour to 5 hours at a...
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The Mom who lost her cool! How often have i judged a mom for losing her cool or making her child cry(before my mommy days)- plenty How often have i judged a mom in the last 4.5 years of being a mom?-honestly zero It's so easy to hurl a sideward glance of disapproval to a mother scolding or shouting at her cherubic preschooler. Very easy if you ask me. All it takes is a look at the teary, scared , cowering little child to   label the "momster". This is typical of people who haven't "lived" the life of an exhausted,sleep deprived, nanny on call, chauffeur on call, cook on call, night time on call mother(oh, did i forget hormonal??). iam a stay at home mother and most days i take my job very seriously. Not that i'am a helicopter mother(some might vehemently disagree) ; anyway i'am the kind who makes sure all the duties revolving around my little one is done and done well. Well you could call lil A my client, a very demanding client at times! I...
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Grass is always greener on the other side of the fence!  But behold! Enjoy your greenery before it gets to the other side! Just this morning when i took little A to costa coffee for her hot chocolate and a caffeine shot for myself, i saw a spunky young office goer getting a take away and heading out to wrap up some unfinished business with a spring in her step. It instantly transported me back to my office days when i could not even fathom sitting and leisurely enjoying a coffee during the day and getting a quick take away en route to a meeting was a luxury in itself. I smiled at the thought and realised how the "grass is greener" saying was a real deal!  Back when i used to work i would just sigh at the sight of a newborn cuddled in a mothers arm, and now i wish i walked with a spring in my step juggling a laptop with a bag and a take away mug?!  Isn't grass always greener on the other side of the fence? Even among us mother species ; the strong claws o...
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Why the Why's Have to be answered and nurtured As a mum to an over zealous toddler who has grown up into a curious , inquisitive  pre schooler ; i have heard the word "why" at least 60 times on a good day(when i counted!). These why's range from  "oh, so cute", to "oh, that's embarrassing", to "oh my god, not now" to "oh no, not here" to "oh , why indeed". Most of the why's pop around the same time your little one starts to put words together to form sentences( remember how much you fretted over the fact that the little one hasn't started speaking yet!). My Little One loves "why" over the "hows","wheres", and "whens". As much as it tends to annoy me at times she is completely justified in using as many "whys". Imagine grown ups being transported to a new planet with no reference point and asked to go about their daily life. Wont we, as adults hav...
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